Discarded!

 I have been having a few conversations where people feel discarded or not needed anymore to the ones they love and care for a lot. How does one handle such things as dejection, the feeling of not being required, how does one look for hope when nothing works, huh!

It is a hard situation to be and it is even harder to not give up hope and keep at it. End of day, it is your own feelings and emotions that you need to handle. Yes, this is due to what happened to you and it is hard to think from the other person's point of view. And finally what do you want the end result to be plays a big role. To move on/ be done with it or you want to wait around for them to come back, it is completely dependent on how you feel about it. The stronger the feeling, the clearer it gets. 

1. Get the clarity and convey it. Either you are done/there is no hope or you want things back with changes. You need that clarity first. 

2. The most important thing is to forgive as that lifts the weight. Irrespective of what you want, forgiveness helps you heal.

3. If you want to get things back, show up. It is fucking hard to be around when you know that you will not be entertained which is most times worst than being yelled at. Being ignored is difficult to take, given how much it matters to you. Hang in there, good things take time.

4. Find your worth - discarded does not mean you are not good enough. Be kind to yourself, everyone has their reasons. Your life is precious no matter what others say or show. Find your worth.

5. Be kind - to yourself and to others. Try to see where they are coming from and what works for them. It might not be an option for them or you might have pushed them to this stage

6. Look for clues, especially when you are waiting. They will give you hope or clarity when there are no conversations.

7. Trust your gut - your intuitions are a good guide. End of the day, you need to feel it inside. And when you do get that feeling, try not to override. There are times when it feels all wrong and dejected. We go through ups and downs. If it is not clear, give it time. 

8. Most importantly, do not lose yourself in this process, grow and get better. Make sure you live your day. Remember, you need to be good enough for yourself and others you want in your life.

PS: All this can be said but every day will be different and you will go through a rollercoaster of emotions and thoughts. All I do is close my eyes, breathe and go back to the times I want back and that gives me the peaceful energy to carry on with my pursuit. I know I am needed and not discarded!